Can someone from Gujarati or Hindi or regional background learn English well by oneself?

Can someone from Gujarati or Hindi or regional background learn English well by oneself?

Yes.
Here is my story about journey of learning English. Never attended any Spoken English classes or any such institutions. Did this with the help of books and tenacity. I come from Gujarati background. I studied in a government school in a village. Once I had a humongous dream and I chose to hold it and nurture it. Wanted to clear UPSC in English medium. But how?

These steps I followed:

– bought a good dictionary (photo attached) in college and kept on reading it again and again for six months. At times it was boring and dry. At times it was fatiguing. Sometimes it was felt there is no ending to this self-inflicted suffering. But kept on trudging. Kept on reading and applying it to day to day life.
– started listening to news on radio, for pronunciation and connotations. Did this for two years.
– improved handwriting. Learnt cursive writing through observation of good handwritings and kept on practising.
– practised speaking in English with hostel friends. Told them I was learning. They were graceful enough to correct whenever I committed mistakes.

— Deepak Meghani, IPS

Graphology

Graphology is the study of handwriting. It is used to infer a person’s character and traits. It is not an objective science. It may be termed as an art; and much of its success or accuracy lies in one’s artful and ardent predilection in systematically studying writings.

Graphology is my hobby. I had mentioned it in my UPSC interview also. I learnt this with the help of some books many years ago. I’m still upgrading myself through practice and reflection. Graphology can be further honed with meditation. I can say based on my experience that a person with a keen interest in meditation can do better in graphology. Occasionally, I do graphoanalysis if a known person asks for it, for his benefit like the areas where he needs to work upon, the traits he needs to be careful of, or he needs to polish further.

Graphology doesn’t require dozens of books for learning. It requires more focused practice and regular reflection to advance after basic learning. There are many books available in the market to learn this art. Some books that helped me to learn graphology are:

1. Handwriting Analysis
Putting It to Work for You – Andrea McNichol with Jeffrey A Nelson
2. The Little Giant Encyclopaedia of  Handwriting Analysis ‐ The Diagram Group
3. Secrets of Graphology – Jacqui Tew

– Deepak Meghani, IPS

Journey to IPS

हज़ारों ख़्वाहिशें ऐसी कि हर ख़्वाहिश पे दम निकले

बहुत निकले मिरे अरमान लेकिन फिर भी कम निकले

– मिर्ज़ा ग़ालिब

This is my first interaction and interview regarding my journey to IPS. I have never preferred to speak about my past and about my childhood because the loss of my sister and subsequently the demise of my mother have left an indelible mark and irreparable loss in my life. I have not recovered yet, but now I have the strength and maturity to speak on that. My struggles have made me humble and resilient.

Success becomes immaterial when you begin to cherish the process. Somewhere on that path, I just got to know what the process means and suddenly the journey itself became the destination. Pain provided the propulsion.

Courtesy: Utsav Parmar, Divya Bhaskar, 21.1.24

“Can One Prepare for UPSC/GPSC with College Studies?” – Vyoohchakravyooh Series

“Can One Prepare for UPSC/GPSC with College Studies?”

A boy residing in a village someday heard of the UPSC examination. Time passed by and he forgot about it. After a while, he came across a magazine which had interviews of some successful candidates who had just cleared UPSC examination. The boy was excited to go after that career. As he was studying in a village school and in a vernacular medium, resources and information were scarce then. But he persisted in gathering knowledge. Magazines and newspapers coming to the local library helped him. Library became his abode and books became his friendly companions.

The boy then shifted to a college for higher education, which was away from his village. He came from middle-class family and had limited financial assistance. Adding to that, the boy was stubborn in his decision to appear in the UPSC Civil Services Examination in English. That was a humongous task and everybody who knew him or had heard of his dream; laughed, smirked, jeered or taunted. He flickered occasionally amidst waves of uncertainty and tribulations, but was largely undaunted.

In his college, almost all the classmates were preparing either for going abroad or for MBA/MCA. He was alone in his hostel and in his classroom – in the preparation for and – with the dream of clearing UPSC CSE. Many in his surroundings considered him bookworm, unsocial, reserved, melancholic. He was still undaunted. He just kept doing what he could do best. He spent his time in the library for most of the times of most of the days. Canteen was a good place to be, but he was never found there as he had promises to keep. Maintaining a balance between Physics and UPSC studies was very difficult. It required painstaking efforts daily. He persisted, consistently.

As a general category candidate, he had limited attempts. As coming from village background, he had to establish himself in the city structures. As coming from Gujarati medium and as he had wished to clear the exam in English medium, he had to prepare a lot. As coming from middle-class family, he had limited and dwindling financial assistance. His distant relatives were constantly ‘motivating’ his parents to ‘guide’ the boy to take a ‘realistic’ stance and career and to ‘settle’ for what is ‘possible’. His parents – who had reached upto secondary education – were simple and sometimes gullible to the suggestions of the people saying so. That was another long-lasting battle. Moral support was like a distant mirage. The boy fought on.

To cut the long story short, finally and eventually, he made it to the list of successful candidates of UPSC CSE. UPSC journey moulded him from a boy to a man.

That was me.

There are many other boys and girls who have been doing similarly.

So, one can always prepare for UPSC Civil Services Examination while studying in college. Some of the observations from my  experience are as follows:

1. Maintaing balance between college studies and UPSC studies is the main issue. But it is possible and doable.

2. It is not just the financial support that is important, moral support is equally – if not more – important. Plan your expenses meticulously. Be frugal. Save for books and reading material. If you have a selfless friend who can understand you, it is a blessing. But above all, your confidence matters.

3. Strategy helps in making the schedule and schedule helps in adhering to the strategy. Start with reading books on preparation tips. Start with reading interviews of successful candidates.

4. One must go through the syllabus of the examination first. Based on that, one must list out one’s strengths and weaknesses.

5. One should seek advice, but from the ‘right’ people and from the ‘right’ books. A wrong advice from an ill-informed or from a negative minded person can do havoc.

6. Choice of books is very important. Read less number of books, but read very excellent books only. Don’t buy anything being published or sold in the market. Be selective. Be choosy. Be smart.

7. Read books first. Don’t go after somebody’s notes or guidebooks too soon. Prepare your own points and notes. It is your journey, and you should tread it on your own feet.

8. Reading previous years’ papers will widen your horizon. That would help in focusing on crucial areas.

9. Don’t brag that you are preparing for UPSC CSE, it would take you nowhere. Perhaps bragging and showing off would take steam out of your preparation. It may happen that someone’s general knowledge or writing skills or communication skills might be poorer than you. But destiny has odd ways to deal with these attitudes. Stay humble, stay sincere, stay silent and stay earnest.

10. It’s a long journey. If anybody promises to make you successful instantly, with very little preparation, that one is a fraud.

11. Stay motivated. Steady preparation in the right direction will provide more motivation than any motivational lecture or seminar.

12. Three to four hours per day for UPSC CSE preparation during college years is sufficient.

13. During and before some days of college exams you should dedicate your total energy to college exams only. Academic results are important to have an alternate supportive career.

14. Don’t be hasty. Don’t be impatient. Enjoy the process. Enjoy the readings. Talk less and do more. Cultivate and groom your personality through the preparation. Be more process-oriented than result-oriented. Result would come if you’ve become a veritable process. Earn your resilience.

15. If you’ve got access to proper guidance, that’s good; if not, use books. You need coaching only if you feel you need coaching. Otherwise, during and through college years, you can build a hardcore hobby of reading books and that would help for the life-time.

Yes, it is possible.

Deepak Meghani, IPS

Happy Teacher’s Day.”Teaching has taught me many things in life.” ( Vyoohchakravyooh Series )

Happy Teacher’s Day.

Teaching has taught me many things in life.

Before joining IPS, I used to coach for Civil Services Examinations (UPSC/GPSC) at many institutions.

I taught for General Studies, Public Administration, Geography, English, Interview, Reasoning mainly.

The institutions in which I taught were SPIPA, Ahmedabad, A D Shodhan IAS Training Centre, Liberty Career Academy, Yuva Foundation, Lok Sewa Foundation, Umiya IAS Training Centre.

My choice of teaching career was due to frontal challenge as well as compulsion of being self-dependent. I just plunged into. I had been shy, reserved and reticent boy in childhood. But situation moulded me.

After beginning of my career as a faculty, I realised I could teach well. Students liked my approach and no-nonsense style. Destiny had empowered me simultaneously with oratorical skills. I gladly glided.

As a faculty, I had seen the struggling journey of many wide-eyed boys and girls to succeed. Their toil and commitment towards their decision to succeed and to endeavour were full of determination and grit.

I learnt from many such students. Some were from so humble backgrounds and still smiling and striving that it sent shivers in my spine.

Their success at the end of their struggle gave me utmost satisfaction as a catalyst in the process.

Backgrounds don’t matter. Accolades don’t matter. Talks don’t matter. What matter are determination, decisiveness and dedication. Comparisons don’t matter, confidence does.

I saw many candidates changing their attitude after getting success. I learnt from them indirectly not to be like them ever. I saw many candidates becoming more humble and humane after succeeding. I learnt to be humble and steadfast from them.

Many who couldn’t make it to their aspired careers are still doing fine in their current careers. UPSC preparation can prepare one to face numerous challenges of life. The process itself is fulfilling.

Be confident, be hard as well as smart working, be rationale and balanced, be single-mindedly focused, be patient and persistent. Success comes eventually.

– Deepak Meghani, IPS

For those who didn’t make it to the UPSC this time and are striving hard ( Vyoohchakravyooh series )

For those who didn’t make it to the UPSC this time and are striving hard :

I failed in my first attempt in preliminary examination itself. During those times, there used to be maximum four attempts for General Category. One attempt gone. I was devastated as I had put in my best efforts. An aspirant hailing from rural background, staying in a big city all by himself, working, self-dependent and studying on his own without any material or moral support – that was me. It was my personal choice against family wishes to go for UPSC. UPSC was my hope, only hope. And I had lost my mother in the same year, preceding to prelims. Such was my hapless and lonely condition that I had not anybody around to share the news of my failure. Later, I had shared the news of my not succeeding with one of my relatives, and he chided. No words of solace or motivation. अब क्या करेगा तू? कैसी तैयारी की तुने? तू यह सब छोड़।कुछ और सोच। It hurt a lot.

I took time to recover. And recovered. The recovery process was painful too; but now those memories are delightful.

May be my few words can show someone hope, with this intention I am writing this piece.

1. Take a few days break. Recuperate. Heal thyself. Rest. Reboot.

2. Share your grief with someone whom you trust. Find solace. If nobody is around, Find solace in yourself. But find it.

3. Reorganise. Rethink. Find out where did you lack. Find out your weak areas. Be it study pattern or answer writing style or time-management, diagnose it. Plan afresh.

4. Accept the fact as it is. Be realistic. Don’t whine. Have no grudge. Don’t waste energy in complaining. Don’t blame anyone, including yourself. Don’t curse yourself or anyone. Accept it the way it is. Assimilate the truth. That would help immensely.

5. Your decision to prepare for UPSC itself was brave and praiseworthy. You tried hard. This hardwork should not be wasted. Build your new foundation on previous preparation. Preparation done never goes waste. It remains. Utilise it.

6. Start reading again. However slowly, but start it. That is your bridge to UPSC.

7. Once necessary changes are planned, systemise them in preparation.

8. Build a long-term perspective. Assess your financial situation thoroughly. You may think to have part-time job to support your mission, but it should not divert your path or whittle your energy.

9. Read some self-help books or talk to some positive minded friends and seniors. That would keep you motivated.

10. Be more disciplined and fastidious. Make proper routine for studies and time-table for syllabus.

11. Destiny comes to those who keep hustling. Keep trying. Success eventually comes to those who keep endeavouring. It is just a matter of time, matter of patience.

12. You still have yourself. You still have present and future. You still can make it. You too deserve to have a great career – this or that doesn’t matter. You matter. You too are gifted. You too can excel. Just you need to give more nudges to destiny.

– Deepak Meghani, IPS

Why many good aspirants don’t get desired success in UPSC examinations? ( Vyoohchakravyooh series )

Why many good aspirants don’t get desired success in UPSC examinations?

1. They jump into the bandwagon without proper thinking. They are not objective in preparation. They just slog mindlessly. They are and remain unaware about syllabus, pattern, structure and trends of examinations.

In short, they plunge into UPSC but don’t know where they are heading.

2. UPSC is not their personal choice. Parental or societal pressure made them to choose UPSC. They remain distant personally to UPSC throughout.

3. They prepare inconsistently. In the beginning they prepare hard. Gradually they lose speed and steam. Sometimes they prepare for long hours, sometimes they find themselves in block.
In short, inconsistency adds bottlenecks in preparation.

4. They are indecisive. They take so much time in deciding which books to read, which references to refer, where to prepare, whom to follow or take guidance from.

5. They are overemotional. Mundane happenings steal away major chunks of their time. They can’t say no. They get dragged in unnecessary and time consuming things.

In short, emotional stability adds leverage in preparation.

6. They do not practise answer writing or paper solution. They remain altogether aloof despite putting into good many hours into preparation. Therefore, their preparation is based on assumptions rather than facts and hard core experience.

7. They don’t have routine. They just read haphazardly.

8. They don’t plan. They are clueless about what they would do if they don’t succeed. Having a fall-back option helps in reduction of performance anxiety.

9. Their confidence level is shaky. Outside happenings affect them a lot. Many leave preparation half-way. They are hardworking and talented, but lack patience and tenacity to sustain.

10. They change books, writing style, reading style, optional subject, medium, place of reading, reading routine, etc. on the basis of hearsay and without sufficient self-analysis. This takes away much of the energy and time.

11. They are attracted to Civil Services largely because of perceived status and glamour attached to these posts. Their raison d’etre for preparing for UPSC examinations is not on sure footing and not backed by strong values or long-term vision.

In short, herd mentality hurts.

– Deepak Meghani, IPS

ત્યારે ઓ મનેખ (‘તિતિક્ષા’ કાવ્યસંગ્રહમાંથી)

ત્યારે ઓ મનેખ

જ્યારે શક્તિ ક્ષીણ અને વૃદ્ધિ સમાંતરે પામતી હોય,
જ્યારે પ્રત્યેક શ્વાસ એક પડકાર લાગતો હોય,
જ્યારે પ્રત્યેક ધબકારો દરેક નસમાં વાગતો હોય,
જ્યારે ટીકા અને પ્રશંસા સરખી ટકરાતી હોય,
જ્યારે કોઈ દુશ્મન ના લાગે, કોઈ દોસ્ત ના લાગે,
જ્યારે મિત્ર કે શત્રુ કેવળ એક સંજ્ઞા જેવા હોય,
ક્ષિતિજો જ્યારે અદ્રશ્ય થવા માંડી હોય,
જ્યારે સૂર્ય એ તારો, ચંદ્ર એ ઉપગ્રહ લાગે કેવળ,
જ્યારે સુખ અને દુઃખ કોઈ અસર ન ઉપજાવે,
જ્યારે પાણી, વરાળ, બરફ અનુભવ મટી અવસ્થાઓ ભાસે,
જ્યારે અસત્યના અટ્ટહાસ્યો વચ્ચે સત્ય-સ્મિત દોહ્યલું લાગે,
જ્યારે જમીન ઉપર, આકાશ નીચે લાગે,
જ્યારે વિચારો પદાર્થોથીય ભારે લાગે,
જ્યારે નજીકના લોકોય દૂરથી પોકારો જ પાડતાં હોય,
જ્યારે અગ્નિ જેને દઝાડે એ ભાસતું હોય દેહ દૂર,
જ્યારે મસ્તિષ્ક મહેચ્છાઓનું મસાણ બની ગયું હોય,
જ્યારે નાભિ અને નભ વચ્ચેનું અંતર લાગે નહીં,
જ્યારે પગ, પથ, પથિક બધું વિલય પામે એકબીજામાં,
જ્યારે અંધારું-અજવાળું સરખું લાગતું હોય,
જ્યારે ધ્રુજારીઓ ઠરીને એકઠી થઈ ગઈ હોય હૃદયે,
જ્યારે વિજયનો જશ્ન ના હોય,
જ્યારે પરાજયનો અફસોસ ના હોય,
ત્યારે ઓ મનેખ
તારો સાચો જન્મ થાશે.

— દીપક મેઘાણી (‘તિતિક્ષા’ કાવ્યસંગ્રહમાંથી)

जब टूटना ही विकल्प हो बचा (‘मरीचिन जेब में’) – दीपक मेघाणी

जब टूटना ही विकल्प हो बचा

जब टूटना ही विकल्प हो बचा,
थोड़ा रुकना
थोड़ा बिखरना
थोड़ा तड़पना
थोड़ा सिसक लेना,
झाँकना थोड़ा ख़ुद में
थोड़ा ठहर जाना,
कुछ देर तक शून्य हो जाना,
कुछ पल सुन्न हो जाना,
धँस जाना मिट्टी में
कुछ पल मिट्टी में मिल जाना,
थोड़ा चखना माटी को
थोड़ा सिर पर लगाना,
फिर
साँस भरना थोड़ी,
और फिर
उठ जाना,
जोर से दहाड़ना फिर,
और उड़ना,
उड़कर वापिस
वहीं मुड़कर आ जाना
और लड़ना।
जब टूटना ही विकल्प हो बचा….

— दीपक मेघाणी (‘मरीचिन जेब में’)

‘જીવી જા’ Poem ‘Titiksha’ Series

બિન્ધાસ્ત જીવી જા
બેફામ જીવી જા,
આજીજીવાળું છોડી
મરજીવાળું જીવી જા,
ભરપૂર જીવી જા,
ઘોડાપૂર જીવી જા,
બરડ નહિ પણ
સરળ જીવી જા,
પરબારું નહિ પણ
સારું જીવી જા,
શરતો વગરનું,
કરવતો વગરનું
બિનશરતી જીવી જા,
સ્પષ્ટતાઓ વગરનું
સ્પષ્ટ જીવી જા,
બકવાસ છોડી
બેબાક જીવી જા,
સળવળતું નહિ
સટાક જીવી જા,
ફફડતું નહિ
ફટાક જીવી જા,
જખમો ભરતાંભરતાં
જકાસ જીવી જા,
ડર્યા વગરનું
હરેક કલાક જીવી જા,
ટોળા વચ્ચે
ટપાક જીવી જા,
ભૂલ કરીને
ભમતો જા
રમતો જા
ખુદને ગમતો જા,
જડબેસલાક જીવી જા,
કોઈને ખટક્યા વિનાનું
ભલે ખરબચડું પણ
ખટાક જીવી જા,
ત્રસ્ત થયા વગર
મસ્ત જીવી જા,
નમ્ર બનીને
સ્વમાન સાથેનું
ઝૂક્યા વગરનું
ટટ્ટાર જીવી જા,
ૐકાર કરીને,
હુંકાર કરીને,
પડકાર જીવી જા.
— દીપક મેઘાણી (‘તિતિક્ષા’)